by Adriana Sommer da CostaSome other day on my way home, ambling in the evening, I started to notice
people's faces, their traits. If we pay attention we will always get to see
something, for example; there are those with happy grim and those with strained
faces or sadness ridden and so on. What can be seen on people's faces are expressions
of their feelings, of their emotional state at any given moment of their lives.
Our physiognomy doesn't give away what happened, or what we've done to be happy,
satisfied, or sad, unsettled otherwise. I wanted to commence this article with
such approach in order to make clear that what we've done or haven't' done,
will be business of others if we let the cats out of the bag, and then, it's
Psychologist and Sexologist
Likewise, when girls lose their virginity and the morning after comes, they
quote that the impression left is that everyone will get to know what happened
or it looks as if written on the forehead. I get a lot of this kind of commentary,
since having direct contact with teenagers and not seeing anything wrong in
that. Once what may happen, it's that girls who had a more strict education,
harsh, in a repressive family, wind up by getting emotionally overburden by
Actually, the same happens with masturbation, mostly when young and
inexperienced. Since all that dread of being, doing something naughty or forbidden
still mulls over the heads of youth.
Funny to say that nowadays, in a world so advance, so full of technology, with
all the freedom of choice and information. The truth about this type of behavior
regarding masturbation still is such for many people, generally, youngsters.
Though, masturbation being today's accompany ever in people's lives, that feeling
of guilt, also ends up being companionship and comes along shortly thereafter
I consider masturbation fascinating, ever so silently in its very universe
that comes to yield pleasure and sexual satisfaction regardless of creed,
color or age.
Far from meaning, that masturbation should be the only and exclusive means
of obtaining pleasure, but the sexual pleasure that it could generated
in certain moments of our lives.
At infancy, whereupon a child is totally moved by curiosity, by the entire
surrounding context and of which offers her a brave new world.
To the child, all the surroundings seems novelty readily to be explored, unveiled,
and as we know, children don't kill crave for curiosity solely with the eyes;
they need to touch and feel. Therefore, in the whole growing process, the child
needs to acknowledge herself as well. Thus, the child will touch herself, unaware
of her actions. In touching her own genitalia, the child is unveiling new sensations
that even bearing on an erotic connotation may be also physiological manifestation.
This period in the lives of children is of paramount importance, given that
it's where lies in all the concepts about sex and sexuality.
Often, parents catch their kids at it and flip by shouting their heads off,
in the attempt of getting rid of what happened.
The child will certainly grow up harboring doubts about her feeling, a good
feel-factor that brought in punishment since relatives didn't like it.
The best possible way to tackle masturbation of small children, it's just to
suggest that whenever they feel-like doing it, to do so in private. So they
can grow respecting their own privacy and of others, with no further explanations
Furthermore, the child will build confidence on her parents; will be able to
keep up conversations whenever in doubt. An ambiance of closeness and spellbinding
trust between parents and kids will root in and grow from strength to strength
Casually dealing with what is natural, only tends to bring out a positive outcome,