By Jonatas Dornelles
For many couples, the best mode to conduct a sexual
relationship is when a man considers the preliminary caresses as the first part
The goal should be the inducement of one or multiple orgasms
and then the male would loose all conscious control and let himself go carried
away by his own sensations thereafter.
His passion can provoke further orgasms in her. And if one
of them coincides with his own orgasm, even better. Notwithstanding, brings
about much anxiety to set up as main goal a simultaneous orgasm.
Preliminary caresses, a.k.a. foreplay, which receives a great
deal of attention in the sex manuals, such rather personal activity and
more kaleidoscopically than the penetration in the vagina or masturbation.
Certain men, who tend to get overexcited and to ejaculate rapidly,
may want to avoid or minimize such caresses.
Certain women dislike it due to inhibitions induced with respects
to the impropriety of touching and being touched. Some think that the penis
inside the vagina is a necessary duty. Some women wish to reach the penetration
phase quickly, a dream come true of most masturbation fantasies.
In other situations, the partner is so clumsy, that this phase
may be totally omitted.
There makes part of foreplay every activity that precedes penetration
in that mutual masturbation, therein augments sexual pleasure
of a couple in sex act. When both consider similar or complementary activities
exciting, such situation is ideal. Oral elements, such as kisses, licks, bites,
fondle or suck in any area, including the genital area, are components of foreplay
for most people. Even in masturbation, one has to emulate a sex
act by envisaging sexual intercourse sassed out imaginary.
Glance, show and touch also make part of such preliminaries.
There can be said that the sexual penetration itself is just an elaborated
manner of people touching themselves. Talks, games and romantic playtime are
essential for most people, mainly at the beginning of a relationship. Its constant
incorporation to not only foreplay, but also the couple's life in general, favors
the quickening of further occasions of which both desire a sexual relation,
far from loneliness-ridden masturbation.
A sexual relation should stem from a situation of affection
as continuous as generalized, of fondle and of feelings that can be passed on
and accepted, without necessarily implying in immediate obligation for going
to bed. Many women complain, by saying that their partners neither give them
attention nor show affection unless when desiring to have sexual relation.
It's perfectly comprehensible that such women don't seem very excited.
Certain men and women fear the sex act itself and in
turn start to dedicate further to the preliminary activities, otherwise known
as foreplay, like oral sex or mutual masturbation, which might
come to replace the sexual intercourse per se.
Even so many might contest, it's quite reasonable to consider
these people sexually immature.
Certain men are extremely jealous of their women in a sexual
sense, even though not prizing them much in this aspect. Often, these men like
to masturbate. Hence, obviously, it's a result of an inhibitor fear regarding
the sex act itself.
The preliminary caresses enable that both partners get the
opportunity of reaching the peak of erotic and sensual pleasure before penetration,
something only dreamt of in masturbation. None social or cultural taboo
should restrict this stimulating phase and pleasant of the sexual relationship.